Comparison & Envy & Love

Back at the beginning of summer, I wrote a post titled “Comparison: The Thief of Joy.” Well, let’s just say, I think I really need to review my own post.

For the past couple of weeks, I have gone back to comparing my life to other people’s lives. One of my cousins has a new baby. A friend from church gets engaged. And I start feeling envious again. It is hard not too.


(There is always a “but,” isn’t there?)

The Bible says that envy is wrong…Love does not envy (1 Corinthians 13:4).

I’m not loving others when I am comparing myself to others or envying them because they have something I want.

I’m not loving myself when I am comparing myself to others or envying them.

And I’m definitely not loving God when I am comparing myself to others or envying them.

I’m actually saying to Him that what He has given me is not good enough. I’m not being grateful for the things that I have.

So what do I do?

1)     I recognize that what I am doing is a sin.

2)   I repent.

3)   I replace the thought that what I have isn’t enough with the thought that God has gifted me with so many wonderful things.

4)   I repair any damage that has been done to these relationships because of my envy.

5)   Now, I am going to add a 5Th thing…I am going to choose to live deliberately by doing what I can to create the life that I believe the Lord wants me to have.

Missional Women

8 Replies to “Comparison & Envy & Love”

  1. It’s so easy to get sucked into comparison. It definitely a thief of contentment. Visiting via fellowship Friday.

    1. So true…Most of the time I don’t even realize that I’m doing it.

  2. Someone asked me recently if I compare myself to others. It had me thinking about an honest answer. The answer is YES! I am also learning to accept myself for who I am, what I am, and see the good that God has placed in me. I don’t ever see a future without comparing myself to others but isn’t it great to have to tools to fight that battle in a God honoring way! Thanks for these reminders! I love your 5 helps. Blessings to you! Love, Rachael @ Inking the Heart

    1. You’re welcome, Rachael! And thanks for your comments!

  3. You have shared so openly here. May God bless you for your faithfulness to Him and for your willingness to share your journey to help others. Great post!
    Thanks for linking up at Essential Fridays.
    Mel from Essential Thing Devotions.

  4. I love your honesty here. I struggle with comparisons too and know deep down that it is not an expression of love but judgment. Great reminder here.
    Thanks for sharing at Essential Fridays.
    Mel from Essential Thing Devotions

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