As I am sitting here and writing, I am thinking about the irony of writing about loneliness while being surrounded by people, but for as long as I can remember I have been one of those people who feels the most lonely when I am in a crowd.
Loneliness has less to do with being alone and more with feeling like you are alone. It’s that feeling of being invisible or forgotten or that nobody knows or understands what you are going through.
It’s found in the person who feels ashamed because they look or act differently than the other people around them.
It’s found in the person who feels scared to be who they really are because they think that if people knew the real person inside that they wouldn’t like him or her.
It’s found in the person who watches other people connect and wonders why it seems to come so easily to them.
It’s found in the single woman who sits at home on a Saturday and can’t remember the last time she had a date.
It’s found in the woman who is married but never speaks to her husband anymore except to argue with him.
It’s found in the teenager at school who is sitting at the lunch tables surrounded by her peers. She is always there, but never really included.
And then sometimes I wonder if some people fear being lonely. I see women and men go from one relationship to another relationship. They never take a chance on a being alone and never allow themselves an opportunity to feel lonely. They fill up their calendars with one activity after another. Each night is something new in the hope that they can outrun the loneliness.
But through the years I have learned that there is a time for loneliness because if we allow Him to then God uses that season of loneliness to draw us closer to Him.
In times of loneliness, we learn that we are never truly alone, that the Lord is always with us, and that He will never leave us.
That’s how He comforts us in times of loneliness…He reminds us of His presence and He does it in such a way that you can’t mistake it as anything other than Him.
His comfort is found when we are reading His Word.
It’s found when a verse pops into our head that reminds us who we belong to.
It’s found when a song comes on the radio that wipes away the sadness.
It’s found when a friend calls us just to let us know that they were thinking about us and praying for us.
It’s found when we receive a note or a card from somebody we haven’t talked to in a while.
It’s found when we hear or read the story of someone who is struggling in a similar way and we suddenly realize that there is someone who understands.
There are millions of ways that the Lord comforts us.