Are You a Giver or a Taker?

Are you a giver or a taker? Do think about what you can do for others or do your thoughts focus on what others can do for you?

Would you rather spend your day doing for others or having others do for you?

I like to think that I’m a giver, and I do give a lot and enjoy giving.

But there are times when I don’t want to give. There are times when I become so focused on what I am giving and whether or not I am receiving anything in return that I am a taker. My life becomes you scratch my back and I’ll scratch your back mentality.

This happened to me recently.

I’m the primary caregiver for my grandmother. I don’t receive a salary for it, and many times I have wants and needs that go unmet because of it. A couple of months ago I was feeling very unappreciated by my family because nobody even acknowledges what I do for Grandma.

Then to make matters worse one of my uncles asked if they could borrow my car for a few months because his son & his wife needed a car. I said yes, but I also told him that the car needed some repairs. My uncle said that he would pay for the repairs, but that he expected to be able to use the car as long as he wanted and for the next couple of weeks every single time we talked I was reminded of how much he was paying to fix my car like he was the one doing me the favor.

Needless to say, since I was already feeling unappreciated, this did not sit well with me.

In that moment, I became so focused on what I wasn’t receiving from my family that I almost backed out of letting my cousin borrow my vehicle.  I was feeling like my family owed me something. I was a taker. It wasn’t about doing something for someone else anymore. I made it all about what I was getting from them.

What kept me from backing out?  I wish that I could say that I read some Bible verse or something that convicted me, but to be honest, I don’t know why I didn’t back out. I certainly wanted too.

But I also know that we all have times when we are givers, and we all have times when we are takers.

There are many reasons why we should be givers instead of takers.

1)     The happiest people though are the ones who try to give more than they receive. They are the ones who are grateful for what they have and have no problem sharing what they have with others.

2)   When you give, the Lord gives back to you. (Proverbs 11:25 & Proverbs 19:17)

3)   The Lord has an reward in heaven for those who serve others. (Colossians 3:24)

4)   It brings honor to the Lord. (Proverbs 14:31)

5)   Others will thank God because you are generous. (2 Corinthians 9:11)

So  are you a giver or a taker?

One Reply to “Are You a Giver or a Taker?”

  1. I like your honesty in this post. I too am usually a giver. I host all the family holiday parties, I’m the one they call for a ride or a babysitter because I don’t ‘work’ outside my home, I also am the one who checks in on my mother everyday and takes her lunch and I do her grocery shopping and take her to doctor appointments…I find when I get to the point that I’m tired of giving it’s usually because I’m physically tired. I know that might sound too simple but for me it’s a biggie. I try to make time for myself to rest up and to do things just for me like go to lunch with a friend, get my nails done or just take a nap:-) I hope the best for you and know that even though people don’t always show us their appreciation God sees what we do and knows our hearts.

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