The Single Life: Searching for Happily Ever After

Once upon a time…there was a little girl, and this little girl LOVED fairy tales. Cinderella, Beauty & the Beast, Rapunzel, Snow White, the Little Mermaid…she’s heard them, read them and seen the movies.

She loved them so much that she has even tried to live them.

Of all the fairy tales, she loved Beauty & the Beast the most. She really loved the Disney version, and she could relate to Belle in many different ways. She loved reading and longed for adventure. They were both dreamers, and even her relationships with men as she grew up have looked a lot like Belle’s relationship with the Beast.

Belle was able to look past the Beast’s outward appearance and saw the man that lies within, and her love transformed him. As a grown woman the little girl would date men who had lots of baggage, but she believed her love would change them.

Unlike Belle’s happy ending, none of the little girl’s relationships ended in a happily ever after. Each of one of her relationships failed because it is not her love that has the power to transform them.

But while she hasn’t found her happily ever after in a relationship, she has found her happily ever after, and she found it in the place she should have looked first for it. She found it in Jesus.

In case, you haven’t figured it out. The little girl was me.

As a young child, I learned to read early and l love reading. Fairy tales were my favorite. I would daydream about my Prince Charming coming to rescue me from my dull and dreary life.

As I have grown up though I have learned that my Prince Charming can’t be found in any merely mortal male. (Sorry, boys!)

I have learned instead that my Prince Charming, my Mr. Perfect, can only be found in Jesus.

I’m not saying that being married can’t be wonderful and that a good man isn’t nice to have around.

What I am saying is that happiness and joy can’t be dependent upon them. We can’t build our lives around them.

We have to build our lives around Christ.

If you want to find your happily ever after, you have to look for it in Christ first.

You won’t find it anywhere else.

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  1. Visiting from Sharita’s linkup. This is a great reminder for married couples too because we need to remember our spouses are unable to meet all our needs. Only Jesus can. “We have to build our lives around Christ.” Amen!

    1. Thank you, Beth!

  2. Oh, I love this – I have been there. Believe it or not, now I am glad I don’t have to deal with a man (granted, I have been married already). So many husbands I hear are into pornography and other adultery, I’m just glad I don’t have to deal with any of that.

    1. Thanks, Laura!

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  4. I couldn’t agree more! Also, Beauty and the Beast is my favorite too! 🙂

  5. I can really relate to this post! I have always loved fairy tales too… ever since I was a little girl. And like you, I’ve learned that we do have a true ‘prince’, the ONLY one with a perfect, unfailing love… Jesus! Thanks for writing this! And glad to “meet” you through these linkups!

    1. Thank you, Lily, for coming by to visit! And it is great to “meet” you too.

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  7. Amen! My fav Disney princess is Aurora, but my fav scene is Belle’s reprise, when she sings “I want adventure in the great wide somewhere. I want it more than I can tell. And for once it might be grand, to have someone understand. I want so much more than they’ve got planned.” 🙂 Enough nerdiness. The grandest adventure is with Christ!

    1. So true, Angela! Our grandest adventure is with Christ!

  8. Sometimes I think it’s harder for women who are single than for men because as little girls, we are filled with fairy tales of happily ever after. That’s not to say that women can’t find the one who sweeps them off their feet. But who do we become if our prince-charming never finds us? Like you, I found the love I longed for in Jesus. He is my husband and first love! Thanks for sharing. 🙂

    1. Marilyn, thank you for coming by and visiting. Jesus should be our first love and our Prince Charming. It is a lot of pressure for men when they think that they have to live up to a fairy tale prince.

  9. You speak SUCH truth here, Misty. Such truth. Before I was married, I had to learn that lesson too– that our TRUE happily ever after comes from Christ alone. Thanks a ton for sharing these great words over at #EverydayJesus.

  10. Hi Misty, there is something about those fairy tales that leaves us wishing for own happily ever after but like you said it’s never really found in another human being.

    1. Hi, Wanda! Thank you for coming by! Our happily ever after can only be found in Christ, but it is so easy to forget that and look for it in another person.

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