The Single Life: Single & Dreaming

If you have been following along with me this week, you know that I am reading through You are Made for a God-Sized Dream by Holley Gerth.

As I was reading through her list of lies, I realized that many singles (myself included) have another lie that keeps them from dreaming (or at least from pursuing their God-Sized Dream). What is that lie?

“I have to be married.”

Let’s admit it. Many of us get so caught up in the dream of being married that we put our other dreams on hold.  We believe that until that dream comes true we can’t pursue other dreams.

But I have to ask you this:

“What if you never get married?”

Now I know that we shouldn’t focus on the “what if’s” but I don’t believe that we can live our lives solely focused on that one dream.

God gives us other dreams to pursue in the meantime, and we need to be pursuing them.

Well, actually that’s not completely true…We need to be pursuing God, and pursuing our God-sized dreams is part of that.

That can include marriage, but it shouldn’t be limited to marriage.

When we are pursuing our dreams, it means that we are walking in obedience to God.

God knows the plans that He has for us (Jeremiah 29:11). For most of us that will include marriage, but not for all of us and I don’t believe that we should live our lives around that single dream.

We should live our lives around Christ, walking day by day in what He has for us and working out His plans for our lives.

When we commit our ways to Him, He will establish our steps (Proverbs 16:3).

In John 10:10, Jesus says that He came to give us abundant life. Even as singles, we should be living in that abundant life, pursuing Christ, and everything He has planned for us.

When He is the One that we are focused on and taking delight in, then He will give us the desires of our heart. (Psalm 37:4)

Are there dreams that you have been putting on hold because you are waiting on marriage?

Pursue them. Go for it. If God gave you the dream, He will supply a way for it to happen.

Now it’s your turn!


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5 Replies to “The Single Life: Single & Dreaming”

  1. I love this. I’m single & there’s no way I’d stop to wait for someone to marry. I’ve been engaged twice but those weren’t the right ones as they wanted me to abandon my dreams. I hope your having a great week.

    1. Thanks, Leslie! And feel free to link up with us. I’m trying to build a community for singles and would love to have you join us.

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  3. Misty, I found your blog through a link up. Love this post! When I was single, I blogged about the struggles I went through from idolizing marriage to idolizing career instead of focusing on God. Now that I am married, I write for single girls with a ‘hindsight 20/20’ perspective. I’ve learned so much. You’re on the right track and your heart is with God, and that’s what matters. Love this!
    In case you’re interested in some of what I do, a linked a few posts below.

    Dear Husband, I Don’t Know You Yet:
    Why I Didn’t Marry My Type:
    Why Attraction Isn’t Necessary:

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