“I’m so stupid.”
“I can’t do anything right.”
“I’m not talented.”
“I don’t have any special skills.”
I have said all of these things to myself at some point (ok, multiple points) in my life.
For me, it started on my first day of kindergarten when I came from school in tears because the other children were making fun of me on the bus.
Kids can be cruel, and I was a highly sensitive child. What people would say to me or say about me would stick whether positive or negative, and since most of it was negative…well, you can guess what my self-talk has been like.
When I was a teenager, I began to understand that a lot of the time people speak badly about the other people in order to feel about themselves. (That comparison thing again.)
But while it helps to understand that so you don’t get extremely angry or hurt, it doesn’t take the sting away.
Words can hurt. They can stick in our heads. They become a song that we play over and over again.
As a young adult, I was told to combat this negative self-talk that I had developed with positive self-talk. I was told to do things like posting positive affirmations such as “Be more” and “You are beautiful” around my room and my house.
That, um, well, that never worked for me. It didn’t work for me because I was trying to replace my thoughts with somebody else’s thoughts even, but this person didn’t know me. No matter how many times I would listen to their tapes or read these affirmations they didn’t feel right and I didn’t believe them.
In the last several years though, I have replaced even the positive affirmations with what I like to call Biblical self-talk and prayer.
Biblical self-talk is just what it sound like. It is replacing negative self-talk with Bible verses. It is replacing negative self-talk with what the Lord says about you.
And since nobody knows you better than the Lord, His thoughts about you are the best thoughts to replace your own negative self-talk with you.
Here are some of my favorite verses to replace the negative self-talk with Biblical self-talk:
1 John 3:16
1 John 4:18-19
When you replace your negative self-talk with what the Lord says about you, you will find a confidence like you have never experienced before because the confidence doesn’t come from you or another person. The confidence comes from the Lord, and there’s not a better place for it to come from.
So let go of the negative self-talk and let God edify you.