I have always believed myself to be a great preschool teacher. I love children, and I have had people call me “the baby whisperer” because I have managed to get some of the worst behaving children to behave, but there have been some people who I have worked with who have been taken aback or offended by what they have called my arrogance and pride.
I worked hard and I studied hard in the fields of child development and early childhood education. I was proud of myself for what I had accomplished and where I thought that I was headed.
Unfortunately, they say that pride goes before a fall, and I fell not just once but three times. The first time I saw it coming. The last two times I didn’t.
I was blind to the problems that my pride was causing. My difficulties in communicating with my supervisors stemmed from pride. My disagreements with my co-workers on how things should be done in the classroom were caused by my pride, and when I felt that my thoughts and opinions weren’t being given the time and consideration needed I just shut down and refused to share them at all. I felt unappreciated and my pride took me for a fall 3 times.
Now that I’m not working in early childhood I have started noticing my pride showing up in other areas too. I see in when I am unable to ask for help because I think that I should be able to do it on my own. I see it when someone starts a discussion with me and I turn it into a debate so sure of the correctness of my judgments. It can also be seen before a discussion when I have decided that they are going to listen to a thing I say and I sit there in silence so proud of myself for being the “bigger” person.
It is listed as one of the 7 deadly sins.
In its arrogance, it says, “I can do this on my own. I don’t need help from anyone. I’m enough. I don’t need anyone else. I don’t even need God.”
It also says, “I’m better than you. I’m superior. I’m so glad that I’m not like those people over there.”
Being prideful is like building a house on a foundation of sand. It shifts and you sink deeper and deeper. When a storm hits, it blows down.
It is a trap. It is a well-dressed trap that looks like confidence and even humility at times, but says to everyone, “Look at me. See what I can do.”
It seeks its validation from the world. It is puffed up and vain.
Humility, on the other hand…
Humility is placing your confidence, not in yourself or your abilities, but in the One who created you and gave you those abilities.
Humility says, “I am not better than anyone else, and no one else is any better than me. We are all human. We all make mistakes. We are all sinners. We all need the Lord. He is where my strength comes from. He is where my confidence lies. “
Being humble is like building your house on a foundation of stone. It will stand strong when the storms come.
Humility looks to the interests of others and seeks to build them up or at least take them with you along the way. It seeks to serve as well as be served.
It seeks to validate, and it seeks to glorify God.
Let go of your pride. Let God humble you, and then you will learn true confidence.