Love is…

How do you define love?

The New Oxford American Dictionary defines “love” as “an intense feeling of deep affection” or “feel a deep romantic or sexual attachment to (someone).” This definition takes it down to simply an emotion or a feeling, but love is so much more than that. It has to be more than that. Because if it wasn’t more then why would we search so hard for it?

From the moment we are born (probably from the moment we are conceived) we long to be loved. We want someone who accepts us and knows and understands us. We want it to be easy and unconditional, and we want it to last forever.

As we grow older, we begin to understand that there are different kinds of love, and each type of love is unique and special in its own way. There is the love that a child has for her parents and the love that those parents have for their child. That experience is our first and longest lasting experience with love. The Greeks call this kind of love “storge.”It is a natural affection. As we start school and begin to make friends outside the family, we start to learn about a different type of love, a companionable love where you simply like the person and enjoy being around them and doing things with them. The Greeks call this type of love “phileo.” Then as teenagers we begin to learn about “eros” or rather erotic love. It is the physical chemistry that draws 2 people together and the one that keeps the earth populated.

Each of these types of love is good, and each is something that all of us need in our lives, but none of them is what we are really searching for. (Although today’s world does seem to easily confuses the “eros” love with the type that we are looking for.)

The type of love that everyone wants is what the Greeks call “agape.” It is an unconditional love that says that we have worth and value for who we are, not what we do. It is a love that originates in God’s own nature, and it is only in a relationship with God that we can truly find this love and that we are able to love others in this way. It satisfies our souls in a way that no other love can do.

It is a love that is hard to define and even harder to live, but it is what we as Christians are called to live. It is a love that goes beyond being and feeling into choosing and doing. It is an action and a choice.  It is something you experience.


In 1 Corinthians 13, the Apostle Paul shows us what love looks like. He doesn’t define it. He just simply describes it. Love is…

In the Gospels, we read about the life of Christ. Christ gave us an example of what this love looks like. Love is…


Journal Prompt:

How do you define love?



Tell someone that you love them.





Day 1: The Living Love Challenge

Day 2: Love is…

Day 3: It’s a Crazy Kind of Love


5 Replies to “Love is…”

  1. Wow! If you’ve visited my blog I also posted my definitions of love.
    So interesting that love is a word that has a lot of definitions. If you think about it, I think each person has a different view of love. That makes it a word with a billion different meanings. 🙂

    Must be the love month, huh?

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