Oh, the past week has been crazy around my house. Both of my grandmothers are now living here and it is my job to be taking care of them. With just my maternal grandmother living here we hardly had any visitors. Now that my paternal grandmother is here we have had visitors almost every single day this past week. It makes it hard for me at times because there are things I need to get done, for the house, for the blog and for myself, but because I feel like I need to be a good hostess, I stop and talk with the many people who come by. It is going to take some getting used to.
Last week I shared a bit about unfulfilled longings and how I have become discontent with being single after a long period of being content as a single Christian woman. Well, last night at church there was a guest speaker for the women’s group, and it felt as if the Lord was using her to speak a message just for me.
(Btw, we finally figured out a schedule so that I can at least go to the women’s group on Sunday nights.)
Anyway, the guest speaker was talking about the process of sanctification and how it is in our trials that we are becoming sanctified. While that was her main topic, she also spoke a bit about disappointment and discontent, and I wanted to share with you today some of the things I gleaned from her message.
Disappointment and Discontentment
Disappointment and discontent are major red flags in the life of a believer. The reason that they are red flags is because they are indicators that (1) you have made something an idol in your life or (2) you are starting to make something an idol in your life. While I don’t believe that discontent is necessarily always an indicator of an idol, I do believe that when discontent is left unchecked what we are discontented with can become an idol, but I also believe that sometime our discontent is a sign from the Lord that there is something we need to change in our hearts, in our minds or in our lives.
Are you disappointed that something is missing from your life? Like a husband or children? A job? A dream? Sometimes God doesn’t give us what we want because He wants us to learn to be happy in Him alone. If we believe that we need what we desire in order to make us happy, then that disappointment can take our focus from Christ and that desire becomes an idol. Have you ever desired something, only to obtain it and find out you still are not happy? It is only in Christ that we can find true happiness and joy.
So what is the cure for discontent & disappointment?
The Cure for Discontent
Do you really truly believe that the Lord has the best in mind for you? Jeremiah 29:11 says, “I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord. “Plans to prosper you and not to harm you. Plans for a hope and a future.”
Romans 8:28 states that all things work together for the good of those who love the Lord and are called according to His purpose.
You have to believe that God knows what He is doing and that He is working out His plan to prosper you, but you also have to recognize that God’s ways are not our ways and that His thoughts are higher than ours so how He defines prosperity and His plans to prosper us will not always look like our plans.
I love that word. It is the Greek word for thanksgiving. In the center of the “eucharisteo” is the word “charis” which means grace, and the root of “charis” is “char.” Char means joy. It means that in order to have joy we need to look for God’s gift of grace everyday.
The third and final thing that we need to cure discontentment is the TRUTH from God’s word.
The truth for my discontent in being 40 & single:
For the maker is your husband, the Lord of hosts is His name; and the Holy One of Israel is Your Redeemer, the God of the whole earth He is called. (Isaiah 54:5)
The truth for my discontent in being 40 & childless:
“Sing, O barren one, who did not bear; break forth into singing and cry aloud, you have not been in labor! For the children of the desolate one will be more than the children of her who is married,” says the Lord. (Isaiah 54:1)
The truth about disappointment and discontent are that they are spiritual problems, not circumstantial issues. If I’m not happy in the Lord alone as a single Christian woman, then I’m not going to be happy in the Lord as a married Christian woman and that is the bottom line. My happiness and joy can only be found in the Lord, not in the circumstances of my earthly life or the things that this world has to offer.
Praying for you and God bless,